Saturday, November 7, 2015

3 tips to get your partner to help with chores. (The no nag approach)

Most people don't like to ask others for help around the house. Especially because they want to come across needy or naggy. The truth is though that anyone you live with should always help you out with chores, whether you own the place or they do. It is a combined effort to keep things from becoming a disaster. We don't want to offend or annoy, but we deserve and need the help. There is a right way and wrong way to do this. 

It's settled, getting housework done needs to be a team effort if you aren't living alone.  More help means more work can be efficiently done with less stress for you, and more time to spend on more enjoyable things, like quality time spent with your partner or family. 

   These 3 tips provide ideas to get the help you need with the chores.

Make life easier and more fun, with cool gadgets.

Everyone likes a cool new toy to try out and housework is no exception! Get your partner a bit more excited about doing the chores with some of the new, innovative, time-saving gadgets available on the market today. Gadgets that will inspire awe while doing the housework include roboticvacuum cleaners, a fridge with an inbuilt tablet or computer to help you order groceries, and even an automatic lawn mowing machine! Some of the gadgets available today are truly astounding and amazingly high tech.

But even if you’re looking for something that’s less flashy but impresses on a practical level, there are an excellent range of versatile and powerful vacuum cleaners that can be adapted to various jobs around the house, such as sweeping, dusting and upholstery cleaning, as well as vacuuming. Other simple, but awesome cleaning tools are mops, dusters and cleaning cloths that are made from electrostatic microfiber. This material is easy to use, quick to dry and saves on cleaning products, while the electrostatic aspect helps to ‘magnetise‘ dust, dirt and hairs to the cloth, meaning you can clean more in less time!

Talk to them. Work out a plan.

Of course the best way to get your partner to give you more help with the chores and a good place to start is by talking with them about the needs and expectations you both have. Take some time in a quiet space where you will have a bit of time for yourselves to discuss without interruptions. Think beforehand about what you’d like to say, in a way that is not accusatory or harsh towards the other person. Think of some reasons for the things you’re asking for, for example, a more even share of the housework if you both work full time, or if you are starting some part time work, how that might influence how much house work you are personally able to do and how they might help out.

Take time to listen to your partner’s requests and opinions too, as well as making your feelings known. Maybe they have fair reasons for helping out less than you would like, for example, busy work schedules or not knowing what you needed help with. Oftentimes we can feel it would just be easier to take care of all the work ourselves than to try to explain what needs to be done to someone else. But taking the time to open up communication channels and being understanding is a great way to a happier partnership and a cleaner house.

Draw up a rota.

What the heck is a rota? 

 A good way to ensure there’s a balance of household chores between family members and to make sure everything gets done, isto draw up a rota, or schedule. It is useful to collect a list of all the chores that need to be done around the house within a regular week, and then divide that list of chores between members of the household who are able to help out, such as your partner, as well as older children and teenagers. A lot of times the bulk of household chores falls onto one person because of their failure to delegate tasks. A well constructed rota makes it clear what needs to be done, by whom and by what time, to ensure household chores are completed efficiently and effectively.

If your children or partner need some encouragement with following the rota, it’s a good idea to incorporate rewards for tasks done, such as free time or a weekend treat for your partner, to pocket money or special outings for kids. Positive motivation has a great affect on getting those less pleasant household jobs done. Working together with your partner or family on keeping the house neat and tidy is a great way to foster a sense of community and working together which builds a stronger partnership and family.

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